Are you looking for a soul mate? Are you unable to stay in a relationship once you find a potential partner? Is your current relationship stagnant?

Your bedroom may be a reflection of what is going on in your life

Some of the answers to the above questions may be found in your bedroom. It is after all the room where you should spend a lot of time nurturing yourself, resting and making love.

A person’s environment is often a clue to their mental/emotion state; this is often on a very subtle level. The good news is you have the power to change this.

One client felt unsupported by her ‘grumpy’ partner. Her beautiful home depicted no obvious clues to her feelings however when Coby saw her bedroom, the problem was obvious; the decoration said it all!

Hanging over the bed was antique heavily framed photo of a gloomy looking old man. At the room’s entrance were elegant wire mannequins and there were more inside, a large one located in the abundance area, the far left of the room right next to where she slept. The mannequins stood separately, each on one thin leg, made of an open wire construction, they were quite fragile looking. No wonder she felt financially and emotionally unsupported as she slept with her grumpy partner. She had inadvertently reinforced how she was feeling through her choice of decoration. A few easy changes could easily lift the room and create the real feeling she wanted to experience.

Making choices about what to keep in your bedroom.

You spend about 1/3 of your life in your bedroom and it has a strong impact on your subconscious - it makes sense to get it right. Take a good look. Is the room cozy? Does the room nurture you and encourage rest, romance, love and happiness? What is the first thing that you see in the morning – a pile of clothes that need laundering, clutter, or is it something that subtly sets the mood for the day in a positive way? It is so much better to wake up to something uplifting rather than clutter and chores.

Analyze what you have attracted or held onto in your life through your subconscious thoughts. If you are single, are there lots pictures of single people or people who belong in your past, do you only have one bedside table, one lamp? Is your bed full of teddy bears, stuffed toys and pillows instead of the real thing?

Hold sentimental items to your heart for a short while and ask yourself how the item makes you feel, does it keep you stuck in the past? If it does, it is probably time to let it go, move on and make room for the new.

Watch Your Thoughts

Wouldn’t it be great if it was as easy as rearranging your bedroom and your soul mate walks into your life? It is and then again it isn’t. Your thoughts and insecurities also need to be addressed. As you go through your room, consider emotional issues and feelings as they come up. Be honest and gentle with yourself. There are many things you can do to release or change them such as simple rituals that encourage self love and emotional release.

Once you have released old emotions and feelings about past relationships, it is important to mentally make room for that new relationship. Visualize exactly what kind partner you wish to attract and physically create the room for them as if they are already in your life. Actions that you take right now will help create the change to give you greater peace, optimism and security. It is important to stay positive, focused and replace any negative thoughts with a positive affirmation, stated as if you have already achieved what you want.

Colour

What about the colours in your room? Are they peaceful, calming, happy and romantic or are they the drab and lifeless? Your choice of colour should reflect the mood you wish to create. Colour has many therapeutic effects on the mind and body. Remember, colour has an energy all of its own.
Avoid

• too many strong colours, they are too energizing and do not promote rest and relaxation
• overpowering dark colours, especially black (which is the absence of colour) These can create a depressed or oppressed feeling.
• excess of any one colour. Blues for example represent the water element and are cool and calming but tend to cool emotions and relationships. White can create a stark and cold mood. Create balance by using warmer colours with them.

The Bagua Map

Coby usually works with a bagua map rather than a compass. When standing in the door way of the room the far left represents the abundance area and the far right the relationship area. What do you have in your relationship area? Remember to represent things in pairs, choose uplifting items that are symbolic of what you want, remove clutter, broken items and any objects that do not promote bedroom harmony.

Things to avoid in the bedroom

• Pictures of water - the ‘water’ puts out the ‘fire’ in a relationship and can promote a feeling of loss, draining or drowning of a relationship and finances.
• Sunsets -  represent endings
• Mirrors. Mirrors increase energy - minimize their use. The mirror should never reflect the bed. If you are in a partnership, it is like inviting another person into your bed! TV’s and computers with their mirror like surface do not belong in a bedroom. If this cannot be avoided cover them over when you are sleeping.
• The position of your bed is vital. Try to place the bed in the power position against the wall diagonally opposite the door enabling you to easily see the door and windows. Do not place the bed directly opposite the door – this is called the coffin position, which speaks for itself.
• Poison arrows are sharp objects that have the effect of cutting ‘chi’ (the positive energy force). These can be overhead beams or edges of furniture that point directly at you when you are sleeping.
• Heavy objects or frames hanging over the bed - to avoid your subconscious worrying about something heavy falling on top of you.
• Avoid using under the bed for storage. Keep the energy in and around your bed as clean and open as you can. This prevents negative and stale chi from accumulating.
• Exercise equipment or other items that do not promote romance, rest and relaxation.

Balance

Feng Shui is about creating balance, harmony and a positive flow of energy or ‘chi’ to you and the place you live. This puts you in charge directing the changes you desire. We are not all blessed with homes that are perfectly designed to Feng Shui principles; however there are many adjustments or cures, both on a physical and personal level you, can make that begin the momentum for change. You are now beginning the process of learning to love and appreciate yourself. Change your destiny and enjoy!

May your life be filled with joy, love and prosperity.

Blessings,

Coby